Personal Goals:
Sculpting the New You
When it comes to the process of plastic surgery, most clients will report that the surgery itself is just one part of a plan to achieve their personal goals. Even though most understand that a set of concrete personal goals is a great way of maximizing life's potential, deciding on a particular action plan is not easy nor obvious.
Many people don’t actually know what it is they want out of life or assume that they do without ever really having thought it through. If this sounds familiar, then additional introspection and planning are probably needed before significant cosmetic surgery.
Undergoing plastic surgery or any other major lifestyle change with the hope that it will miraculously deliver meaning to your life is more than a little misguided. Just like other significant life decisions, before you decide to make physical changes, you should really do some self-exploration.
Think of it this way, it can be hard to find your way around a city if you don’t have a map but its even more impractical to buy a map when you have no destination in mind and not sure of your current location.
The process of setting personal goals can help you to discover what it is you really want out of life and from there you can work out the signs that you are on the right path. Whether this involves cosmetic procedures to enhance your appearance and boost your confidence, enrolling in a course, or making an additional effort with your personal relationships, the first step is being clear on your goals. Goal setting is the best way to decide what you want to achieve in your life. You can separate the things that are important from things that might just be a distraction, motivate yourself to action by giving yourself something to work towards, and build your self-confidence as you achieve the things you set out to do.
It might seem a little ‘pie in the sky’ but taking time to define what you want out of life can really empower. So if you are considering plastic surgery, let’s talk about how you can assess why, how this might fit in with your personal goals, and what to do to make sure you remain focused on achieving your wider goals of which, your physical transformation is likely just one. The following are four steps with a list of questions you need to ask yourself in each. You should take time to consider the answers, write them down, sleep on them and then review them a few times. You don’t need to show these to anyone but writing them down will help you to confront your thoughts and feelings, keep you focused and make it easier to identify what you need to do to make things happen. No one can set these goals for you, it's up to you to decide what’s going to make you happy. The most important guidelines in goal setting are to be both honest and specific.
Step One
Setting your goals, ask yourself:
- What do I want out of life?
- What’s important to me?
- What don’t I like in my life and what positive steps can I make to change them?
- What do I want to achieve in the next five years?
Answers could include romance, appearance, career, hobbies- anything that you feel will make you happy and healthy, bring love into your live and remove negativity. Try to wean the final answers to about five things – you may really need to consider what’s most important. The answers to these questions will become your goals. If surgery is something you have been considering, now is the time to ask yourself "Which of my goals is related to surgery?" and "What do I want to get out of surgery?" You should consider both the physical – "I want larger breasts", "I want to look younger" and the psychological – "I want to feel more confident naked", "I want to feel normal", "I want members of the opposite sex to notice me."
Step Two
Once you have worked out what your goals are, the next step is to list all the things you need to do to make these goals happen. At this stage you should ask yourself the following question:
- "What can I do, including having surgery, to achieve these life goals?" Surgery may be just one option and you need to explore what what else you can do to achieve these goals. Examples include: regular exercise, giving yourself a makeover, eating more healthily and trying to be more sociable.
Some may find themselves arguing this both ways. "If I had surgery I would be more sociable" or "If I had surgery I could give myself a makeover." While this might be true, the point here is to highlight all the positive changes you can make with and without surgery. If you aren’t already trying to make improvements towards your goals before surgery, you should be aware that surgery is not going to make you an inherently motivated person. The absolute majority of people who are successful are proactive in achieving their goals, whatever they may be. Furthermore, deciding to have surgery should never be considered an easy way out; it is after all, surgery! Try to list everything you can think of whether you’ve tried it or not.
Step Three
Prioritize and create a plan
- "Which of these things will make the most impact and get me closest to achieving my goals?"
Each of the answers on this list can be broken down further into items of action, for example
- Exercise
- Workout 3 times a week
- Hire a personal trainer
- Diet
- Create a meal plan
- Start grocery shopping
- Take time on Sunday to prepare my meals for the week
- No more take-out
- Surgery
- Research procedures
- Make an appointment
- Budget
- Be more social
- Sign up to a dating site
- Say yes to invites from friends
- Sign up to a boot camp
At the end of this step you should try to have a weekly or daily schedule written in your diary. This makes achieving your goals more manageable and before you know it you’ll be well on your way to achieving your goals.
Step Four
Finally you need to ask yourself big questions
"How much do you want these things to change?" and "How much work are you prepared to put into all areas of your life to effect these changes?" These questions are very much related. If you aren’t already looking for ways to improve perhaps you need to ask yourself if this is something you really want or rather does the idea of surgery represent a fleeting distraction from a more significant life goal?
"What are the pros and cons of making these changes?" Research your answers, ask Dr. Belsley during consultations, search online and ask friends and family who have similar experiences. Think about how surgery will impact your life, your relationships and your body.
For many clients, surgery represents the final step in their self-actualization as it also represents a reward for the years of hard work and sacrifice needed to achieve their personal and aesthetic goals. Clients who undergo surgery as one of many steps to achieve their goals enjoy many lifestyle benefits including: the confidence and body shape needed to wear their favorite fashions, more comfort, motivation, and the body structure to engage in sporting and fitness activities.
A rejuvenated look can provide a general boost to self-esteem and exponential benefits if you feel more confident to take on life’s challenges. Whatever your personal goals, proactive motivation can help achieve them. You can start today by asking yourself the right questions and then formulating a plan. While it might seem that setting personal goals is hard work, making yourself happier and healthier is an immeasurably rewarding process. Don’t be afraid to realize that you are worth all the extra effort!










